30 July 2007

I know you hear me but are you listening?!

When you hear rain fall does it blend together or do you listen to the distinctive pattern of the individual drops on your umbrella?

As the train whooshes down the track, you hear the rumble and hum, but do you actually listen to the noise of the locomotive’s engine?

When you have on the radio do you actually pay attention to the songs? Or is it just disregarded as background music that you hardly miss if you flip off the switch? I truly enjoy music; however, when I am in my own little world I have a way of disassociating myself with the actual lyrics and simply hear the melodious strain of the instruments and do not necessarily listen to the actual song as a whole.

The subtle nuances between hearing and listening can make the difference in many circumstances. Particularly it may assist in understanding others and alleviating disagreements.

I have found that many times people hear you talking but do not actually listen to what it is you are saying. In my experience that leads to arguments, misunderstandings and hurt feelings.

We are all guilty of this be it intentional or unintentional Life has a funny habit of getting in the way and, at times, keeps us from paying closer attention to the actually things happening around us vis a vis listening versus hearing.

I have learned in my life that if I actually take time out to listen my experiences are deeper, richer and more fulfilling. It’s almost going from black and white to the full spectrum of the rainbow… I hear the Bubbie’s laughter as he delights at accomplishments, learning a new task or watching cartoons. But when I listen to it I can breathe it in and join with the revelry. There is so much more available to me if I would only listen.

7 comments:

chez béz said...

Beautifully written. I hung on every word.

Mike

Sara Sue said...

Mike said it perfectly! Nicely done!

Slartibartfast said...

Nice.

And very, very true.

Crabby McSlacker said...

I hear ya!

Oops. I mean...I'm listening to you.

Dang.

Anyway, great post and it's something I really need to remember!

Sara Sue said...

Huh?

'Coma said...

I'm in love with this post, Klinde.
Seriously.

Klinde said...

Mike: Thank you very much. Apparently having Mr. Stackhouse as a teacher paid off!

Sara: Thanks!

Slarti: Thanks to you too!

Crabby: Ha! And thanks!

Sara: You always crack me up….

‘coma: Coming from you that means so very much….