13 September 2007

Captain Ramsey

Have you ever experienced something personally that was also being played out nationally? I know the events of 9/11 affected people globally and many had personal knowledge of someone touched on a private level. With that being said and the sixth anniversary of 9/11 happening earlier this week, I want to tell you what happened September 13, 1997. It was a couple of weeks after Princess Diana had died and a week after Mother Teresa. Death comes in three’s and I remember telling Mama that I wondered who the third would be since I always adored both of those women. Mama sternly warned me against asking such a question because you will find an answer you really do not like whatsoever. She’s always right and this time it was no different.

It was a Saturday and my ex-husband and I had spent the day at his company picnic in Greensboro, North Carolina. We came home and I casually checked the answering machine. The message from my ex-father-in-law was muddled and confusing and he sounded drunk. Without missing a beat I dialed them in Virginia. What my ex-mother-in-law said to me was in a whisper and I could tell something was really wrong… What she quietly said was “turn on CNN”.

I made my way to the TV and turned it on. Flipping channels, I finally landed on CNN. After a few minutes there was a story on about an Air Force C-141 that had not returned to its McGuire, NJ base from a humanitarian mission to Windhoek, Namibia delivering land mine removal equipment. There were photos of those who were missing. The second one was identical to the photo on the table right beside me. I tapped the ex on the shoulder and then pointed. We quickly called his parents again to get more information. All they told us this time was to get to their house as soon as we could.

We flung things into bags, jumped in the car and drove. Fervent phone calls were made to both of our bosses. His boss was understanding. Mine, not so much. I was told be at work on Monday or you do not have a job. I told her to turn on CNN because according to all counts I probably had a death in the family. Although they were less than 100 miles away, I could have sworn the drive took hours.

Finally upon arriving we were greeted by an Air Force officer. He sat us down and explained that Jason’s plane was missing. The last known account had been when they refueled on the Island of Ascension. Ironically Jason had called us while he was there as I was cooking dinner the evening before. My ex was not available so I was the last member of the family to have contact with him that fateful day.

The family gave me the task of making certain the small town (my former in laws truly live on Main Street) was covered with yellow ribbons in hopes that he would come back to us. They literally blanketed the town. Everyone knew my former in-laws as he was a principal at the only high school as well as one of the assistant football coaches. We even tied one around Sally, Jason’s golden retriever. She was his gift when he graduated from the Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs in May of 1992. The first media regarding Jason was a photo of that dog along with the rest of us. At that point I was also the family appointed media POC for all things regarding Jason.

Hours became days, days became weeks. The search was no longer considered a rescue mission. It was, at best, a recovery mission. However, it was the Atlantic they were searching for a sign, any little sign of wreckage. The sea can be very unforgiving. Air traffic control in that part of the world is sketchy at best. Hope was fading fast that there would be anything found at all.

There was the first of five services held. The first was at McGuire AFB. If you have not experienced a military service on a base you really are missing something filled with rich tradition, honor and haunting beauty. The flyover for that service was heart wrenching as nine C-141’s (one for each soul lost) flew by. The second service was Jason’s home town memorial held a couple of weeks later. It was held in the largest venue available in town, the high school auditorium which was filled to capacity. We were fortunate that there was a flyover from McGuire for this service as well. With GPS technology they were flying directly over as we exited the building.

Fast forward to December 25, 1997. Over three months have passed since we were told to turn on CNN. They found the wreckage. They found the black box. Back in mid September, they found wreckage from another plane that was not US but was German in the area Jason’s plane should be but no sign of Jason’s. Apparently the same day Jason’s plane went down a plane filled with 24 German officers and their wives were heading to Capetown for a Regatta. Yes, they called on Christmas day to tell us this.

Answers, we demand answers. One wife wanted to review the remains. My former family declined but allowed her to view all as DNA testing was going on to determine who was who. Out of all that was found, DNA showed conclusively that this was Jason. Now we had something to bury. Maybe that would bring more closure or maybe it would reopen the scab that had formed over our wounded hearts.

Service three of five is held. A trunk is dropped over the wreckage site and a park is dedicated to the crew of the C-141 in Namibia. Service four of five is held. This time it is back in the sleepy hometown where we lay all of two pounds that were positively him to rest. Full military funeral with a 21 gun salute and another flyover. That was March of 1998… A full six months after his death. We did not attend service five of five at Arlington. Jason had earned the right to be buried there; however, the family wanted him at home. Arlington is where they laid to rest the remains both identified and unidentified.

The black box. It survived months in the ocean. It had a lot to tell us. Jason was a pilot; however, he had flown the initial mission so he was out of the cockpit when the events unfolded. There is chatting between the two in the cockpit. There is a mention of “Jason was right. There could be another plane out here and we would never know it”. A few minutes later they found out that Jason had indeed been a fortune-teller of the most devastating kind. The impact was quick and it was deafening. The calls for “Mayday” went unanswered. There was screaming, lots of screaming. It lasted over 30 seconds before there was complete and utter silence. I can not begin to imagine how long 30 seconds feels when you know in no uncertain terms that you are going to die.

What went wrong? Well the German Tupelov carrying the 24 officers and their wives had not filed a flight plan with African air traffic control. They were flying on the wrong altitude. Everyone was in the wrong place at the wrong time and the conditions were perfect for tragedy. The German plane exploded on impact and gutted Jason’s causing them to keep going that extra half a minute and moving them much further away from the German crash site. The Germans were found because part of their wreckage was floating whereas the massive hole in Jason’s plane caused it to sink. The odds of a mid-air plane collision occurring are astronomical. Say you and I went out and were ten football fields apart. At a precise moment we both shot a BB gun into the air and the BB’s collided. You get the picture.

When we cleaned out his belongings I was told to take what I wanted. All I opted for is what is in the photo below. It was a gift that I made for Jason as a present when he received his wings. What is even more touching is that on the back of it is the note that the ex and I wrote to him telling him how very proud we are.


So ten years later, I remember you. I still think of you often and fondly. You were like a little brother to me. God bless you Captain Jason Scott Ramsey and may you rest in peace.

29 comments:

chez béz said...

Heartbreaking but beautifully written.

jag said...

Yes, heartbreaking.

Busy Mom said...

Thank you for sharing that.

The Meezers said...

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} that was so beautiful and heartbreaking.

Meezer Mom Mary

Blue Collar said...

Klinde -

What an incredible memorial.

I am so terribly sorry for your loss.

With my son having just entered military service, all of us here at Chez Blue have the niggling, not quite fully formed thoughts about those sorts of things in the backs of our minds. I imagine they never quite go away.

Thanks for opening your home and heart to all of us.

Blessings,

Blue

Daisy said...

What a sad anniversary for you today. I am very sorry for your loss, and sending you soft purrs and sandpaper-y kisses.

Klinde said...

thank you all for your support. it is very appreciated.

Kerstin said...

Thank you for sharing something so very personal and heartbreaking.

Perspective is a beautiful thing.

Samantha & Tigger said...

(((((HUGS))))) That was wonderfully written and a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing. We hope you are feeling better. Soft, rumbling purrrrrrrrrrs.
Samantha, Tigger and Mom

Dody said...

Thanks for sharing your lovely and heart-wrenching story. I remember hearing about it when it occured. Please accept my condolances. How odd that I am reading this as I listed to the AF game on the radio.
Dody Korn
proud AF mom

Dianna said...

I was googling names from my past and a young man in the airforce named Jason Ramsey has always stuck with me even though we never kept in touch after he left his post in Arkansas to go to flight school.

I was overwhelmed when I read this blog because everything you mentioned matched up with the man I remember and I am saddened to tears to learn of his fate.

I am a mother of my own two boys now and I cannot imagine the pain of loss that his parents felt. As well as you and the rest of his family.

Your rememberence was beautifully written. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Why no mention of Amy, Jason's fiancee? I'm a former co-worker, and stayed with her day and night at the townhouse she and Jason shared in NJ, while we waited for any information during the search. She loved Jason immensely, as he did her. His death affected many...and yes, he is still remembered and missed...

Sven Gerhard said...

Hi Klinde,
my name is Sven Gerhard, my brother Uwe Gerhard and was on the German plane that went down that day. I have been searching on and off for articles about this crash on German websites but never found anything, but tonight thought I will search some English speaking sites for the crash and I was overwhelmed with the amount of information I found on the Americans that tragically lost their lives that day with my brother. I loved your article and would love to talk to someone that has lost their loved ones too that day. I think about my brother a lot and miss him and wish I could have said goodbye. For some reason we in Germany do not have as much information as you have here in the US. I was not aware that they recovered some remains. The German government always told us there was no hope and thus we never recovered my bothers body or any of his comrades. My mom to this day misses her first born a lot and we always make sure we talk on his birthday Oct 10th and Sept 13th.... We all miss him, my other 4 brothers and my 2 sisters miss Uwe a lot and we wish we would have some place to go too to grief, but right now we just have an empty grave that we now buried my dad in it last February. My mom and dad did have a terrible time when it all happened. I do remember the call I got from my mom that day.... I think I will never forget. Please if you read this, contact me at svengerhard@evanwiley.com. I live in Vancouver, BC Canada and would love to find out more about what really happened...

Sven

n8k99 said...

thank you for this story.

I just caught up with an old friend yesterday. He told me about Jason. All three of use had been in K-7 homeroom class together. Jason and his brother and I played on the same Dixie Youth Team, and I lived just up the street from them.

i'm saddened by this news. i don't know what else to say about this at this point in time. obviously, i had not been paying a whole lot of attention to the events of the world during that period of time otherwise this would not have been a surprise to me yesterday!

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I always wondered what happened to him. When he was at LRAFB we would go on dates to the Burger Barn and rent movies together. Shocking to lose someone so young and so great. And what a way to go. He wanted to fly so bad. I hope you come back to this blog and delete the spam as a tribute to Jason.